Andy, it sucks, I know. I'm sorry that she hasn't come around before now. I know what you mean that if W did come around, it would be like a new R, but she doesn't realize that yet. She doesn't realize what exactly can truly BE between the 2 of you. I think what happened in my M and probably most here is that we just get in a rut in our M's, same sh*t, different day, day in & day out and it gets boring. We don't realize it's happening at the time until it's kind of too late if no one is communicating their unhappiness.

Just stay as positive as you can right now. Focus on you and who you have and are becoming now. Nothing but good will come out of all of this, no matter what the outcome is.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10