Hopeless and eveyone, You talked about the hobby cowboys. I married a real rancher and rodeo cowboy The tall dark handsome type when we got married had a lot incommon. He was fun and worked hard. We worked hard and rodeoed and what a dream. Even though I came from a ranching family. Its the life everyone dreamed of except we were in a partnership with family. I think that was the start of our down fall. Struggles in a family business even though they are all close has its hard ships and really effected us. When we sold our main place and he went to work else where because the money was so good the farther he pulled away. I stayed home and worked and kept the rest of the business together. I even think that he was a little jealous that I could run it and keep things together. He used to be so cranky when he would call about business and now he will aleast tell me what a good job I am doing where he would never do that before. He actually is a pretty good business partner only if the OW wasn't around. It is hard because she wants my life style and my family because hers is such a wreck. I find my self still asking to many questions. Yesterday morning he was real friendly and up and today real distant. He is only and hour away and only came over to see S once.
I guess I ask to many questions and don't keep the conversation interesting.HE can always find something wrong with me.
Bob You can bring your girls over anytime to ride.
I have up and down days. The detaching article is helping more and more. Its so hard having him so close and knowing she has her claws into him and convincing him how much better she is thatn me. But has been a almost a year since she started chasing him. I guess it is time to move ahead for me. I know I keep saying that it is just hard to let go.....
HI guys Thanks for the hugs...My H showed up at the house yesterday after I was gone to work. Understand he lives an hour and half away. He might've stayed at her house which is an hour away. No phone call or anything its like he was trying to see if the house was a mess or what. He did fix a sprinkler line that I needed a valve on. Which was very helpful. He did stop at work to say Hi and give me a ride to the garage where the pick up was gettijg fixed. He talked on the phone all the way to the garage and then he was just cranky about telling me the business deals so I kinda shut his door a touch harder than normal. He called and said why did you slam the door and I apoligized and said maybe frustration. I thanked him for fixing the sprinkler line and told him I appreciated the help. There was a diet pepsi in his pickup in the cup holder and I know he doesn't drink that. He was just really stressed. My oldest son called and told me to just tell him you aren't accepting negative things in your life. He said he started doing that and H changes his attitude. I firmly believe that he is in a MLC and Is frustrated himself. So with you guys support and my friends I keep moving ahead. I did feel the anxiety start but I was more in control of it. Thanks to all of your advice and understanding it all better.
Please don't take this the wrong way... I've seen a few pictures (beauties ALL)... And reading your posts.... Ahhh... You are such an attractive bunch of Ladies.
Why? I think it's because of who you are. You are wonderful people. Your in touch with who you are, what's around you. Your hearts are of gold. Your kindness, genorosity, empathy, integrity, and on and on. Your wayward husbands are a bunch of freakin' a**holes for not seeing this.
And Dudes, I would and could count you as the kind of guys I would want to be friends with. The character comments for the Ladies above apply to you too. I'm proud and glad to have and to call you "friends".
It's so unfortunate the circumstances that brought us all together. But together we will survive and thrive.
God bless. And Rock On, Rock Free !!! (No, I'm not going anywhere). BoB
Hey Mattie, So glad to hear from you! Please start a new thread, we miss you! Have you read my latest events? Wow, I think they are classic signs of MLC for my 43 year old H!
Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
