If partners could face depression together, without OP involved, a whole other scenario of feelings would be there for me. ================================================= that's the thing, depression is such an ugly thing that isolates the person from even himself, empties a soul, the person has to seek help and work from within, or ends up like my H, putting up and appearance of "oK" to let dogs lie and make the other partner think everything is ok--all the while being dead inside.
Sandy has it right, your H is the one who has to decide all on his own. You've already had let him know that you wish all contact be broken right? if not, you must do it in a gentle way, not as a command, you must put your request out there, for him to know. That way, there is more of a chance he'll do it sincerely.
If my H had just have talked sweetly to me and given me some time and space....maybe I would have come around sooner. ===================================== wow, that's really good advice I should listen. Op out of pict but h isn't himself nor come around yet, and me having this aura of 'you owe me big time now' doesn't help (no I don't say such things but i feel it in my bones and he's guessed he's under the microscope)
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
