New and confused

[S.T. _I Made It!]

I realize I was kinda vague. Yes, I meant that WE have changed. Of course every sitch is different, but I think for most women that have a WAH it is the case where the H "thinks" he's fallen out of love, for whatever reason, may even decide that he never loved, and it's just them. You know how they say, "It's me, not you". thats really not true. I believe for most of us women, especially those of us with children, end up losing our true identity. the person that our Spouse fell in love with. It's very easy to fall into the mundane traps of life. And we need to always be making sure that we are taking care of ourselves, not just everyone else in our family. Because not taking care of ourselves will lead to bitterness, nagging, jealousy, false expectations, etc.

So this is where you put it in high gear and really start becoming the best YOU that You can be. Start having fun with life, enjoy life, love life. I know it's going to be hard, but like someone said earlier, make yourself and it will become you. It totally worked for me too. You won't have good days all the time, but that's okay. it's okay to be sad, angry, tired, whatever sometimes, just as long as those times are shorter than the good times. Surround yourself with positive people, positive messages, etc.

The whole point is that we are getting your H to find you interesting. Eventually he will start wondering, why is she doing so well, why is she so happy and fun now, and then he will be confused. confused about what he really wants. He thought he knew it, but now he's not so sure. So be consistent with this as best as you can so that these changes in you become real, and your H will see that. It's going to take time though, but you can do it. Have faith that your M will be restored, but continue to keep expectations at zero and be lovingly detached.