I've been following along on this sitch for a while, and I finally had to register now, so that I can respond:
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Dom R: I think you are confusing YOUR fantasies with Agent99's H's fantasies. Either that, or you ARE her H or H's friend.
She keeps telling you why she thinks the way she does, why she is not following your advice, and you just keep pushing her to be sexually agressive toward her estranged H.
She may not have responded directly to your repeated suggestions because she didn't want to be confrontational. Most people will "get the hint" if someone keeps changing the subject. You have given her some good advice and other support, so she probably doesn't want to alienate you.
It seems to me that she is doing some good work on her self-esteem, and putting in some reasonable boundaries with her H. So, why not be supportive of her in the direction she is going in her DB effort? --------------
Agent99:
Plan on going to the wedding alone. Do not remind him about it--you are not his social secretary or his mother. If he remembers and he wants to go, he will go. He may drive separately and end up sitting next to you. If he brings it up and he wants to go with you, great.
