That is a good perspective. It is very true, we go around looking for people who mirror our point of view, and reject those who disagree. She places value on the different perspective and says those are the people whose ideas we need to consider. I think that is true within our relationships too. We expect the spouse to be like us, and we reject his or her "otherness". I see that as a big source of conflict. The differences between how men and women think, and how our backgrounds influence our worldviews. In the past few months I have come to accept that my husband is not my twin, and it's OK for us to not see things the same way. But I have to fight a gut instinct to tell him that he's wrong.
