At this point, I think there is way too little to get too worked up about. I really do. I'd stay alert, but leaving it on the calendar, and your daughter knowing about it, it just doesn't feel sneaky enough to be an issue. I think you let it go. At the same time, I've been thinking, and even saying, for a while that it might be time for you to 'cut in', so as far as that part of the plan, I like it. It sounds to me like Jeff's general outlook is improving now that he is working. Am I hearing right?
As far as noone home now, could they be asleep with the phone off, or maybe doing something loud enough not to hear the phone?
On to your daughter. In my opinion, it doesn;t even really matter whether the kid has been in a lot of trouble or not, 15 to 11 is way, way too much difference for her to hardly even talk to him. But, making it absolutely forbidden strikes me as a sure way to drive it underground, which can't end well. So, maybe there is some sort of compromise to be reached. I would think that it won't take long for a 15 year old to loose interest, as long as things are being watched carefully.
