Need advice on WAW with OM

[svejk]

Heimlich,

Thanks for the links to Grasshopper's threads. I haven't had a chance to read through all of it but so far it's very helpful.

I was doing great for a few weeks, even getting positive results from my wife, until the last 2 days when I found out about the OM. She had OM earlier during the separation that ended weeks ago, but now she has moved on to someone else. Since then I've been making so many mistakes I've pretty much erased the progress I'd made the last few weeks. I just couldn't stop questioning her about it tonight. It became painfully evident that any progress I had made evaporated when she told me, "I know I have you in the palm of my hand and I can do whatever I want."

Tonight I committed to myself that I would stop trying to control and snoop what she's doing, completely let her go, and hopefully I will stick to it. It may be my last chance, if I even have one at all. My W is extremely angry with me.

I also let her know I would give her space and leave her alone. of course she doesn't believe me so all I can do is show her. She did reiterate that she wants to fall back in love with me, but not the way I was acting tonight. But it's just unbelievable how selfish and cold-hearted she has become. She can she how much her actions hurt me and even her family but she just doesn't care. I would have never imagined she could become the person she is now.

I'd always told myself that I would never put up with OM and always wondered why anyone else put up with it. Now I understand, but I still feel like a loser and a fool for putting up with it. I just love my wife to much to let her go. I would do anything to get my wife back to the way she used to be.

Svejk