You are going to get the "hot and cold" btw.. I just get tepid these days.. but that is another story and a completely different set of circumstances.. although there is om.
Dont worry about om btw.. not for you to bother yourself with.. that is her problem and not yours !She will tell you and anyone else what they want to hear.
You are still married however and you want your w back in your life.. hmm.. would your pf idea etc.. be a 180 for you ? What did you do last A ?