I completely understand CeMar.....and Corri had it right for about the first three paragraphs...(maybe more....but, in as much as I relate to CeMar, just the first three)
LFL said: "Emotional desire, not sexual."
I promise you....this *IS* right on the money. The problem is that people like CeMar and I cannot comprhend how one does not lead to the other.
CeMar, I understand you MUCH more than you think.
I have NOT changed my wife to an HD.....but I have "backed off" and given her the opportunity to breathe. The aftereffect has been that....what she *has* given me (even if its not as much, or as often as I would like) has been given OUT OF *DESIRE* FOR ME. But her desire for me is on her terms, and her time table....not mine.
In other words....I came to accept that a blowjob not to completion, BUT GIVEN OUT OF WANT AND DESIRE, was better than the blowjob TO completion given out of "oh crap, do I have to?"
Once I wrapped my head around that....my life, and my sexual relationship with my wife got alot better......NOT PERFECT by my standards, but *vastly* improved.
