I can tell you that it probably will not last with the OM. Esp, coming off a divorce..I can say this b/c I'm living proof. I was in the middle of my divorce when I started dating my husband (and he's the reason I'm here so we know the story). Anyway, I don't know what her motive in saying she wants to see you with someone else is..your guess is as good as mine. Also, I totally understand your feelings of dissapointment w/ her choices. I feel the same way today about my 1st husband esp when he does things that hurt my daughters.
I hope you come to a point where you can be friends with her if it doesn't work out b/c it's always best for the kids.
