That seems okay. It would be a problem if it was the bunny-girl part of your psyche yelling out, "Look how much he digs me! He must really be into me if he's willing and able to do all this!!"
This actually brings up an issue on which you might be able to offer some enlightenment for me as a middle-aged divorced dating man. What I've discovered is that my bunny-girl needs to be as differentiated as my monkey-girl as a middle aged female dater because your peers are WAY more affectionate, romantic, cuddly etc. than the guys I dated when I was young. So I don't assign any "Look how much he digs me!" thoughts to that kind of behavior either. So it's just like bunny-girl yells out that she is having sweet-fun and monkey-girl yells out that she is having spicy-fun. At first I thought this sort of behavior was a misguided attempt to use romance to get me into bed. Now I think they behave that way just because they want to be romantic. So I'm wondering if this is because men just naturally get more cuddly as they get older or is it because divorced men are used to having an all-purpose wife type woman so that is why I feel like I am being viewed/used/judged as sex-object/romantic-interest/person to talk to about your kids and finances right from the get-go? Do you talk to women about issues with your children or the state of your finances or get all super-cuddly or over-the-top-chivalrous or actually tear up when you're talking to a woman on a first or second date? I guess the thing that confuses me is that there is nothing that clearly signals to me when somebody really does "dig me" except their continued desire to date me (One guy actually sent me an e-mail which freaked me out because he used the phrase "you are the one" and then he disappeared on me). Actually, I'm not even inclined to assign "meaning" to a continued expressed desire to date me anymore. It's all quite baffling.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
