Sweetie, you cannot believe anything this man tell you! You have got to stop listening to anything.....and get the hell out of there! He needs professional help. You cannot help him. Do you hear me? Please listen to us....you are not the one to help him, b/c you are too close to him. It takes a professional that is not related or involved with him. He will beat you down and he will start (if he hasn't already) on the kids. They will never feel happy about their home or themselves b/c of their dad. You say you are going to stop trying soooooooo hard. But, you still want to stay in that type of environment. Yes, you are co-dependant! You need C also. I don't mean that harsly, honey....God, my heart bleeds for you. Please, get your childen and get away from that man. If he gets well....and it will take a long time....if you still want him afterwards, then fine. But, don't listen to his lies. He will not change. He is so selfish and it's all about him. That should tell you what kind of person he is. You deserve so, so much more. Be good to yourself, sweetie.
Please take care of yourself and the babies. Let us hear from you often or we will worry about you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
