You guys are too great! You always know how to make a gal feel better. I'll add you two to bucket #1. Here's the tally... 1)What the hell is wrong with Hope's H? He's crazy to walk away from Hope: 1,000 2)Hope's H is happier than ever: 1 (OW and only OW, even H is in bucket #1)
Husband,
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What in the heck is wrong with Hopes H?
I think we have established...he's crazy.
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There is no way he can be trading up.
Definately, not...OW is less in every aspect: looks, intelligence, kindness, etc. He's the type of guy that needs to be the center of attention. So when things weren't going as planned the baby stuff and he was tired of living in my shadow, he traded me in for a worse model.
Scott, Sorry to hijack your thread but I just had to comment.
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From what we learned here on the boards she is pretty amazing and now from what I see a hottie.
Thank you. Don't know if I've ever been called a hottie before . Sometimes, I think I'm become the crazy one...you always straighten me out.
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I think her H might need to be committed.
You are too funny! H actually told me one day...I think I'm crazy what do I do if the counselor wants to commit me...I responded...let him.
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"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
I totally agree about everything you said about your girls. I think of girls all the time, how they have this safe, loving world and H is willing to shake that all up, althewhile (like your W) saying they are his top priority.
And yes, I have stopped worrying about H's happiness/moods/whatever, and just enjoyed my kids more. Helps a lot, since they love me unconditionally. I don't feel that elsewhere in my house.
Hope, Hijack away...Yes, your H is crazy. If the dude in Cali turns out to be a flake let me know.
LWB,
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I think of girls all the time, how they have this safe, loving world and H is willing to shake that all up,
Well you should take some comfort from my W. Kids are resilent, they will be fine, this is not a big deal for them. Besides life is going to knock them down from time to time and they need to learn to pick themselves back up. I am kidding... But I am not kidding about my W saying this. Our S's heads so far up the OP a$$ that they are not getting oxygen anymore just toxic gas.
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yes, I have stopped worrying about H's happiness/moods/whatever, and just enjoyed my kids more.
That is all you can do. Be content and happy with yourself and pour what you can into your girls. Seeing mine always puts a smile on my face.
BTW, my threads are your threads stop by when every you want. The only rule I have is that once you have been to my thread once you are nolonger a guest. So you need kick off your shoes and make yourself at home.
Journaling: Last night my girls and I spent the night at my parents house. My girls then spent the day with their Grandma and Papa. For lunch my parents brought them downtown to see me. It was great seeing them in my environment, it was the first time D2 has visited me at work. My mom had them dressed in new outfits that she had bought for them, both of their shirts said "Daddy's Girl". I saw them for about 1 hour while we at pizza.
My W again called a couple of times while I was at work. One of the times she started questioning me about my plans this weekend with our girls. Then tonight she called to apologize for grilling me with questions ealier in the day. She said "after we move out it will be easier for me to let you have your routine with our girls. Right now we are still on top of each other and it is hard". She also said "I know that they are cared for well with you and have no concerns in that regard. This is just another area that I have to get used to". Positive?Negative? Who really knows....
After I got my girls home tonight we popped in a DVD(Annie) and ate popcorn, until my girls bedtime. I am still going to miss my nightly routine with them. While carrying D5 to bed she said "Daddy I really love you". I know that she does, but, it still feels good when she tells me out of the blue like this.
Tomorrow, because my W is bringing our girls out to her sisters house, I will be home alone. I do not have any plans yet but I will think of something. This Saturday should be busy, I plan on bringing my girls to the Chicago Air and Water show. Then later that night we are going to my friends b-day party. It should be a fun day. I think I am going to make Sunday a low key day and just stay around the house with my girls.
And H spews out things like your W, and adds "Divorce is better than two miserable parents". This from the man who made me promise on our wedding night to never give up on him, because divorce is horrible on kids (He is a child of divorce).
"Daddy's girl" t-shirts are just the cute cute cutest!! Glad you had a nice day with them. I am with you on the separation thing, I know I *can* do it, but don't want to be without them, even one night.
Isn't it amazing what these kids say. My D3 came up to me last week, and hugged me, and said "You a good mom, thanks". She was totally serious, it melted me.
So, your plan for tomorrow, keep busy and look forward to your time with the girls.
I am glad to see that you are making yourself at home. Our S's sound a lot alike in what they say. I cannot believe he can say these things since he grew up in a broken home.
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Isn't it amazing what these kids say. My D3 came up to me last week, and hugged me, and said "You a good mom, thanks".
Sounds like your D3 is pretty smart and appreciates all that you do for her. It does feel good to get compliments like this out of the blue.
Journaling: Yesterday, I did not see my girls, which is a huge bummer. I ended up having dinner with my nanny. I told her what I expected and did not scare her off. She actually said "Scott I love your girls and would do anything for them". I cannot ask for a better attitude, we will see how it goes. Today, I was planning on bringing my girls into the city to watch the Air and water show but it has been an overcast day and thought that might not have been the best idea. So we went to the movies instead. We saw UnderDog and both girls seemed to really like it. Now D2 is taking a nap and D5 is in the house because it is raining. We are going to a party tonight for one of my friends, he is turning 30, should be a great time.
My W is worried about me exposing my girls to a crazy party and them getting good nights sleep. I just told her understood her concern and this wasn't the type of party I was going to. She is always worried about what I am doing with them, but I cannot express my concerns to her. I guess it is the double edge sword of an infidel.
Tomorrow my girls and I are going to church in the morning and then just hanging out around the house.
I guess the longer this goes on for me the easier it is for me not to worry about my W. But it does get lonely. For the first time in 11 years I do not have my partner. That is going to be hard to get used to.
My W is worried about me exposing my girls to a crazy party and them getting good nights sleep.
She's worried about you taking them to party, but not about them growing up with divorced parents. Unbelievable, do the WAS ever seem to amaze us?
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I guess the longer this goes on for me the easier it is for me not to worry about my W. But it does get lonely. For the first time in 11 years I do not have my partner. That is going to be hard to get used to.
It is lonely and it is very hard to get used to. I have to go to one of my friend's weddings by myself in a few weeks. It stinks to not have a date. A bunch of my friends from high school married the guys we were dating in high school. We were the first to get married and this is the last couple. It sad that our marriage had to end before there's even began.
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"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
So lonely. I get that big time. Even when I am in a room with H I feel lonely. He is friendly and caring with everyone else but me at times, that hurts, but I keep a smile on my face.
And yes, isn't it amazing that they are worried about what we (the moral ones) are doing, but they don't see the HUGE picture? They don't see that no matter how peaceful a separation/divorce is, its a huge adjustment to kids. They should have unlimited access to mom and dad at all times, that's why we brought them in the world, isn't it?
I am struggling with the fact that I work 40-50 weekly and already miss my kids. Now, H wants to shake that up more and have them half the time? Granted we haven't gotten that far (still living under the same roof), but if its coming, I need to get ready. They are very attached to me, and it would be hard on everyone.
I feel you about missing your kids. In about two weeks mine are moving out with my W and our D will soon be final. It hurts to think about not seeing me girls on a daily basis. Hang in there....
Journaling: This past weekend I had a good time with my girls. We saw a movie, went to a party, then on Sunday went to church, and then met some friends for ice cream. It has been raining the last few days, which was hard on my D5. She does not like being stuck in the house without any friends. We played the game Trouble while D2 took her nap, but, after an hour she got bored with Daddy and wanted to play with one of her friends.
Tonight, I was supposed to play softball, but it looks like it will get rained out. My W is still pushing me on the refi of my house, which is starting to get on my nerves a bit.
The biggest drama that is going on recently is that my W does not want my nanny picking D5 up from school on Fridays because she will be taking the bus the other days and might confuse her. To be honest I do not think it is a big deal to alter D5 schedule one day a week. I am just going to tell my W that I am comfortable with her getting picked up on Fridays and if it becomes an issue then I will have the nanny pick her up from the bus stop(which just so happens to be in front of my W's new place).
My W sees her C tonight, so I should not have to much interaction with her. It is funny I used to feel that her C would help and bring her back to our M. Now all C'ing for her is to deal with the D which she initiated and wanted so badly to get out of. Her C is C'ing my W like she is the LBS(unbelievable).
It rained here too all day, Scott. I am in Missouri.
I agree about the nanny, I don't see why that would shake up D5's life, maybe W trying to get control. If you don't have a problem with the nanny picking her up from the busstop, then I guess agree to it.
The problem that I have is it seems like this is another attempt by my W to control things, then again I could be seeing this through the lens of a LBS glasses. I don't want to make decisions that are venge full but at the sametime I do not want to cater to my STBXW. I really do not see my nanny picking her up from school once a week as a big problem, but, if this is a true concern of my W's then I don't want to be a jerk about it either. She is the mother of my girls and I would not want to totally disregard a concern of hers, like I would not want her to disregard one of mine. I think with me saying that I don't see a problem with her being picked up once a week from school and I am willing to change it to the bus stop if a problem arises is hopefully non-confrontational.
Yes...I agree with you about my W's C. Ewwww is right....
. Sometimes, I think I'm become the crazy one...you always straighten me out.
Glad you had a nice day with them. I am with you on the separation thing, I know I *can* do it, but don't want to be without them, even one night. 