bit more...

I think its important as to "why is he looking elsewhere, NOW", as compared to "why was he looking elsewhere, back when you were dating?"

Do you think it was for the same reason, or different reasons?

How are you different now, compared to the woman he "came back to", then?

My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle