Trying to set those goals!

[Dom R]

To cut to the chase. When I was was 'flirty' and grabbed his butt on the Monday at the bar, that was sort of when the conversation drifted towards HIM saying "we need to talk" and that he doesn't want to be "friends with benefits."

that's "flirty". that's just being "sexually receptive".
that is NOT "sexually aggresive"

I'm guessing you've never been sexually aggressive in your life


That may be what he is looking for. That's why he's hanging around in bars. That's where sexually aggressive "just looking for sex" type women hang out, I would think.

I don't think me being aggressive with him would be well received. He already quasi-rejected me a week ago. Besides, he hasn't dated or courted me; no nookie for him!

yeah, how's that goin for ya?

If he's not going to ask you out soon.... I dont think he's going to.
if he doesnt in a few days... then I say grab him, "use him", and then dump him wanting more.

'course the sad part is, us men being what we are, it'll probably take you longer to get where you "want to be", then it will him. If he's usually a "minute man", you might want to get warmed up yourself, to beat him to the punch.... then as SOON as you are done, get up, and leave him hanging on the edge, if you can

I figure he'll be completely blown away by seeing a strong, sexually aggressive you, that he's never seen before.. and not to mention he'd do just about anything at that point to finish up.


The biggest point to remember is: This isnt "for him". this is 100% for you. Be completely selfish, only make him feel good insofar as it is physically neccessary for him to "perform".. but otherwise, dont give a hoot about his pleasure.

If he's normally a "1 minute man" and you know he wont outlast you even when you are "warmed up"... then again.. get him on his back, then demand that he "take care of you" in other ways.
I'm guessing that after some initial resistance...if you stay forceful, he'll cave.
Not "abusive" forceful... just "i know what I want and you're going to give it to me" forcefull.

sigh.. you probably dont know what I'm talking about.




Yeah, this is a huge stretch for you. You're probably appalled at the thought you could even be that brazen/selfish.
but if he isnt involved with someone else already... it will rock his world, and his view of you. guaranteed.

heck, I wouldnt be TOO surprised if he's a closet submissive in the bedroom, and thats why he keeps looking for a "strong woman". ahahah. well never mind that
Even if he somehow has "gotten his jolleys" from his alleged camping trip... wait a few days, then take what you are entitled to.

it's all about attitude. Psych yourself up. If it helps, remember that you have biblical backing for his: you are ENTITLED to sexual satisfaction from his body. Now go TAKE IT!


[hmmm.. wonder if it would be too over the top for you to rent a "woman dominating a male" adult video, and leave it laying around. yeah, probably... heh.
But you probably could get some ideas, yourself, from some of the "softer" ones.

I'm usually very anti-porn. Seems like you could use some ideas from somewhere, though.... Trying to think of some non-x-rated stuff that could give you the same idea. hrmm...
sharon stone, basic instinct?
cant remember the full details. Definately the whole self-assured cockiness. the "flip herself on top". attitude.

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Your husband is looking for something you arent giving him. Or in his case, getting from him.
It's time to do things "outside your comfort zone", I'd say.


gah... wish I could come up with a specific attitude in a film to give you. most of the "porn" level ones, are somewhat degrading to the man, so that's no good.


You dont have much time on this.

IF I'm right, and he's been looking for that kind of sexual adventure with a "strong woman"... IF he didnt go on a "wild weekend fling" with someone already... he's going to find that kind of thing in a bar sooner or later.

So, cost benefit analysis:

If you wait a while longer, to the point that you think he's not going to ask you on a date any more (end of the week?) what's the worst that can happen?
He turns you down... but sees a forceful side of you that he's never seen before. Even if you "lose", you still win something.
The only other thing is the "date me or no sex for you" rule.
But if you want, you can attempt to justify it with, "this isnt sex for YOU, this is sex for ME"