Get me on a smoother ride........Need Advice

[Have Faith]

I agree with Cadesmom. My H has been involved in a EA for 9 months. Sometimes when he has been open with me he has said that it was an ego thing and that the OW made him feel wanted. At first he was in the "bubble" and was ready to throw in the towel, but somehow in the 5th month, the bubble must have gotten a whole in it, because he wasn't so sure that it was the OW he wanted.

Secrecy does fuel the fire. It is a whole lot different when they know that you know. I found out just about 2 months into his EA. However, H said that if I didn't go snooping around, it probably would have just gone away. I don't think that is a smart thing to do because it would just give him license to do it again. No consequences, just fun times and excitement for him.

He won't be close to you again for awhile. My H had to begin to feel safe around me before we started getting close.

Faith