Well, cat, it sounds like you have a full load of stuff to deal with right now. This dang roller coaster just keeps on, doesn't it? It's making me a little sick, too. You say he's getting sued over a wreck? My H got sued over one a few yrs ago, they sued the city and him personally, too. Luckily, the city settled, and the FOP took care of him. I am telling you they see dollar signs when the city is involved, even when there are no injuries. It's always something with a cop. My H seems to have no sense of right and wrong right now, either, and if he does, it's kind of mixed up, and turned on and off.