Well, cat, it sounds like you have a full load of stuff to deal with right now.
This dang roller coaster just keeps on, doesn't it? It's making me a little sick, too.
You say he's getting sued over a wreck? My H got sued over one a few yrs ago, they sued the city and him personally, too. Luckily, the city settled, and the FOP took care of him. I am telling you they see dollar signs when the city is involved, even when there are no injuries. It's always something with a cop.
My H seems to have no sense of right and wrong right now, either, and if he does, it's kind of mixed up, and turned on and off.

Hang in there, cat, stubby says meow.

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