I think w/ an EA, the bottom line(s) is/are that you need to figure out what he is getting from her that he doesn't feel that he's getting from you at this point.

Also, the excitement, drama, etc. that comes w/ a forbidden EA is addicting I think. After we've been married for so long, that initial excitement of a new romance is no longer there. That is probably what they are both getting out of it. The skipping heartbeat when the phone rings and it's the other person, that feeling you get in your stomach, etc.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10