About a year ago I found this site. My exh had left me and I was desperately trying to save it. In April of this year our divorce was final.
During this past year of our separation we were still sleeping together every so often (every few weeks). He had quite a few other women and one he was particularly close to. I tried to date one time but I was still in love with him. He always maintained that he still loved me and made a mistake but never made a move to change things.
A few weeks ago I found I was pregnant by him. I told him immediately thinking he would want me to abort to which I would refuse. He blew me away. He felt this child was meant to happen for us and has been happy about it every since. We talked about going slow and working on us and not moving in right away or anything, but just go slow. We spend alot of time together, sleep together when the other kids are not around, say ILY's, etc.
The only thing is I feel like he wants to keep this a secret from the rest of the world. We live in a small town and its all over, which is fine. He is in an upcoming wedding this weekend and I am feeling sorta hurt that he doesn't want to take me. When I told him I was hurt he gives me the 'we are working on us for this child'. So he wants to go, party it up, be single while his pregnant ex wife sits at home. To me, either we are or we aren't working on us. Not only when its convienient for him.
Another issue is his ex gf/friend. I snooped on his phone and he still talks to her every once in awhile. She is devastated by all of this and is clinging on to him, telling him how sad she is, how she misses him, etc. I notice sometimes he talks to her, sometimes he doesn't. I didn't tell him I snooped, but I did tell him that we need complete trust and fidelity. She was also spreading things around town that I am forcing him to do this with me, how sorry she feels for him, etc. I told him I heard the things she was saying and they better end.
Am I wrong to feel insecure? Does it seem like he is a cake eater? Thanks for your help.
