OK now I've gone back and actually read over the thread properly. I agree with what Corri is trying to do. If everything you think makes you happy involves other people then that is pretty fused. I have become ALOT happier lately because I have started to do things just for me. Examples are joining the choir and doing creative writing. It is not just about being happy because my H likes the dinner I cooked or because the kids have had a good day, although those things are good too but that is letting your happiness DEPEND on how other people are. If my H barely touches the dinner and the kids are a pain and fighting each other I can cope MUCH better if I had a good time at choir or managed to knock out another chapter of my novel in my lunch break.
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
