My ride on the Roller Coaster called WAW Hell

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Another issue that is on the horizon is that Aug 30 is the 1 year annniv. of my Dad's death. It was quite traumatic for all of us. He contracted West Nile and spent 30 days in ICU before he passed away. (It's safe to say this last year has been very difficult)

As far as I know my sister is still very mad at W for all of the pain that she has put the kids and me through. My Mom also has some issues with W too because I was not able to be around for her after his death due to W traveling. Mom can put things to the side, she is an amazing rock sometimes, she has already told me that if we are able to work through this that she will be able to forgive W and move on. However I don't know if sister will be able to do the same. I have not spoken to sister about how she feels yet, she may have softened some recently.

I am torn on this matter because it will be an emotional weekend no matter what, but if S & W have added tension then it will be that much worse. I know how much it will hurt W to be excluded, but seeing as she made the choice to be outside of the family, if S isn't comfortable with her there then I will ask W not to come.

If it comes down to me having to ask her not to come, maybe I can do something seperate with W at some point during weekend. I just don't know if this would soften the blow, or add insult to injury.

Can anyone think of another way?