Trying to set those goals!

[Dom R]

well, if you're going to be all strategic about it, then be fully strategic.

Think it all the way through, and answer this question:

Would you think that your husband, would view your "dating" other men, as a sign of strength, or a sign of weakness?

Which do you think he values more about you:
your independance from him, and your attractiveness to others?
or you being a "woman of virtue" ?

Keep in mind that his view/hopes/expections of you, are NOT REFLECTED by his own actions. Some men can be complete schmucks by their own actions, yet expect their wives to be pillars of virtue.

I dont know the answer about your husband. I dont know the man. only you do (hopefully you know, anyways...).
Each man is different; only you know which type of man he is more like.

From what you've said of him, though.. he seems to value you being a woman of virtue.

That being said... you showing a completely NON-virtuous side, would certainly be "a 180", and get his attention.
is that the kind of attention you really want from him, though?

I dunno. it works for some people, and not for others.
potential positives: would take you off "the pedastal", and he'd maybe stop having such high expectations of you.
potential negatives: if in his heart, he really does want to be in a long-term relationship with a "good woman"... you semi-disqualify yourself by doing that sort of thing, and he may look elsewhere.
(then again, if he's hanging out in bars looking for women.. he really doesnt seem to be looking for a "good woman")