Trying to set those goals!

[Dom R]

Completely.
He's hurting you.
He's being a schmuck. by the separation. by not doing things with you. In a lot of ways.

Dont let him drag you down to his level.


To take a look at the extreme case:
In those marriages where there was definately an affair, I've read online various peoples' accounts of how they had a revenge affair.
Not one of them ever said "it was worth it".
Not one of them said "it really helped my understanding/...."

Without exception, they said that it was a horrible thing that majorly screwed things up and made things worse for both of them.

What you're feeling is perfectly normal, human feelings.
But then again, there are plenty of other "normal, human feelings", that arent helpful, productive, or positive in the long run, too.