The truth is Kelly, the signs were there, just like mine, but we didn't want or know how to read them, that is why they felt like they have to do something drastic, to really wake us up. Just like now we have to do the same thing, we have to do something that they would never expected us to do, and that is change, That is the only way that they will, if it's not too late wake up, and fight for the R, or the M.
Just like I'm sure you know, telling someone that you've changed is one thing, but without actions, there is no proof. Our WAS's are very skeptical and closed minded, to them seeing and seeing for a long time is believing. That is why we must do it for ourselves. If we only change because we want them back, they will know it, it will show, we will be doomed to repeat the cycle again and again, I know, I have been separated from my W, before, and she and I both promised change, and look where we are now, apart and pending a D, that is inevitable, it is most likely gonna happen.
I am not giving up on me, though, and not on her till I am ready. That is something that my W, kids, family and friends just don't understand. They think I deserve better, and I do. But whose to say that she can't be the one that I deserve? Whose to say she can't change? though it is doubtful, and even I doubt it, sometimes, then when I least expect it, I see the girl, I fell in love with, peaking through all the drama that we are going through right now. It is those times and my faith in God, that give me strength to fight on. I know that I am going to have to have some kind of R with her, we have kids, and so we are bonded for life. Whether it is friendship or more, she will always be in my life, and me in hers. So for my sake, for the kids sake, and for her sake, I have to change, and so does she, and she will maybe a little, maybe a lot, but I know that she will.
Sorry, I didn't mean to get off the subject of your sitch, and I hope you can find some advice in all of that. Take care.
