LoveMatters I know how to organize my day, and have read many articles and books pertaining to the chronically disorganized and procrastinating, and have seen it addressed in the "No More Mr. Nice Guy" book spoken about often on this board That particular book spoke about these phenomenon’s as self-sabotage. Yup, I can attest to that. That happens to me too LM. I have somany "open loops" it isn't funny.
GonnaGoBlind In the recent past when I've been alone and not feeling like taking care of responsibilities, well I just vegetate and then later regret wasting time, Me too GGB.
I think there is another thing that has to be taken out of the equation, and that is the cost of doing whatever. For example, I've thought that if I had the time and money, I'd like to try my hand at restoring an old car or building an airplane. GGB, that cost/benefit ratio comes into play big time for me.
I have the old car in parts but keep looking at the rising cost for some parts that used to be $20 when I started collecting parts, and now they are over $100. I bought a complete Model “A” truck once for $600 and now tires and tubes for my project car is about $600.
I also read and watched a TV series where a guy built an airplane and a helicopter from kits and standard parts. The same guy also rebuilt a ~60 something, Jaguar XK type sports car and if I remember correctly a late 40’s, early 50’s MG.
This guy didn’t have that much prior experience so hired pros to teach him to do the work. Of course the TV production company paid for everything.
I get shy and have a hard time talking to the people I find there. I suppose one of the obstacles I need to put on my roadmap would be working on my conversational skills and getting over my shyness. GGB, I have a difficult time talking to “SOME” people, it I get some vibes they are irritated with something about me.
I have a mini-van spotted that has a 5-speed transmission. I said I would buy it if it ran. I started the van but it quits running. The owner keeps going back to his story “well it was running when we parked it.” I haven’t figured out a plan to get him to get the van running for the price I am willing to pay, so we have been at a stand-off for over a year.
What we both face is getting stuck. We do part of the work to reach a goal but something like a wall builds up, I feel I might have a difficult time getting over, then I hold back.
Hairdog Most of the other things that make me happy involve other people, usually naked ones. LOL, I had similar thoughts HD but decided I wasn’t to include any individuals, but could include groups of people like a club or public venue like a concert/play.
I'm a little confused. Are we defining our purpose/mission, or are we answering the question, "what would make me happy?" and taking anyone else out of that equation? Because they are two different things. Yes, two different situations, and like you my mission is/was my family.
I see where personal happiness and a mission can both be had to varying degrees.
All mission and little happiness equals a disaster. Sacrifice some mission to gain some happiness by having more balance in one’s life seems to be an attainable goal.
