Thanks, SuperDad. I don't want to share my feelings with DH---that may be out of hurt, since I just feel like he doesn't get to be the one to hurt and comfort me at the same time. I do indeed have others to talk to, and all of you are an important part of that, for which I'm grateful.
Originally Posted By: SuperDad
You are only giving him what he has asked for!
Actually what he asked for is that I understand he can no longer be my romantic partner, though in his words that shouldn't affect our wonderful friendship/partnership. Unfortunately he doesn't seem to get the magnitude of what he's asking. It's infuriating to think that he may feel sorry for me, in the sense that "Gosh, we could be such good friends; too bad she can't understand what this *really* is and not feel so hurt." Of course that's exactly what I'm working on, with help from all of you. Then we'll see if that's what he really wants. It's going to be a very long road, though.
Can someone please explain to me the thing about not calling back? I know I don't have to check in with DH after he calls, though I obviously would've before. I feel like acting as if everything's fine could include a response, though.
Of course I don't know what the future holds, but I have a very strong feeling that even if things with the OW go south, he won't want to work on our M. I think he'll feel like he's had a glimpse of something he wants, and can't imagine it could be with me. I know feelings change and I hope, especially with the changes I'm making, that he'll eventually change his mind. That's where we are right now, though.
Hey bar, I'll ask you again so I can understand you better. Given your description of H, why do you want the M to work, other than you've been together for so long? I'm working on this question myself, and despite my horrible disappointment in DH right now, I do have a couple of reasons, even beyond the kids.
Thanks again, SuperDad and everyone. I really appreciate it.
