Trying to set those goals!

[Trixi]

Why do you CARE if you're still attractive? Who are you looking to attract, and why?

No one in particular. I feel like a reject right now. I would like to feel like I could be a good man's *choice*.

isnt the only person you should care about being attractive to, your husband?

A lot of good that does me. He has already said that he is attracted to me, that our sex life is great, that he loves me, blah blah blah- BUT "something" is missing. I know *he* is attracted to me. And yet he is still gone. He still wants to "feel broken up." I think it will be just a matter of time before he sleeps with someone.

but it's a very destructive, harmful attitude for a married woman to accept in herself, other than "am I attractive to MY HUSBAND?"

I would totally agree with you IF he was *acting* like MY HUSBAND. It's not like I am a housewife who's husband is at work and I am flirting with the pool boy so I can get validation. If he doesn't come back, I would like to at least have hope that someone else might find me attractive.

Oh-regarding the camping stuff being brought back here--we have a shed for stuff like that and he is currently living in a 2 bedroom apartment with no garage.

PS: **NO SEX**

I'm not worried about that since he "Doesn't want to lead me on."

Interesting idea regarding free run...I am conflicted since he always calls in advance, he is paying the entire mortgage and we agreed that access wouldn't be unreasonably withheld.