I think sometimes we just don't really hear. I remember the W telling me she ain't happy so many times. I just though it's due to her living so far away from her family since they are very close. I never really listened and realized that it could be me. Maybe a little denial too? She has asked if we can go to a couples therapist. Too bad I've been reading the John Gottman's book on 7 principles of a happy marriage or something like that and it says most of them are quack and it end up making things worse. So I refused. Maybe I should've listened to her. It would at least make her feeling I'm validating her feelings even if it didn't help..... And yes, we all tear our hair out and want to know, Why can't she just take this opportunity with me???? Guess she has been on the other side and "offered" many opportunities already and gave up.
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.
