Cobra, JM has been posting on http://www.marriagebuilders.com and a mid-life transition forum for a long time.

What you both had in common was W' that don't see the value of sex, W that liked to spend money, and you guys doing a lot of work. Both of you write well and appear to understand the many books you all read.

In some ways you are very similar people in my mind, with slightly different W's, a bit different approaches but still almost like brothers with working on similar problems.