Thanks for posting an update, it was really insightful. I hope one day my H will come to terms for accepting his part instead of blaming me. I think he needs to do this in order for him to move forward and begin to heal.
I know what you mean they label themselves as the ex. I was called the ex-wife for the first time two years ago and it stung big time. And yet, we are still married.
Hugs, and enjoy puppy.
M:43 H:37 D14 (ours) D18 (mine) S22 (mine) S18 (his) S: 10/2004 Bomb: 2/15/05 In/out of home Living with OW #4 Talks of D for 2-1/2 years