Puddle,
Just one thought, you don't need to tell H anything nor talk to him about the R. There are others in your life who can be your "safety net" for now. Let him feel your absence for a while! You are only giving him what he has asked for!

SD

Me 41
W 41
Kids: S9 S7
Married 16 years
Bomb dropped 2/2/07
Still living together!
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