Haven't been here for a couple weeks as I was away and then just couldn't read others stories cause they made me so sad as there are so many of us in this situation. But I really need some advice. please. My H told me last night that he will be moving out, wants to sell the house, is still seeing the OW (although insists only close friends not intimate which I don't believe), and basically it is pretty much over. With the job loss and subsequent wrongful dismissal and everything that came after, he said before we could even attempt working something out which he doesn’t believe we can, he would need all of this over, needs to figure out who he is, what his future looks like and he can't do that in the same house as me. I finally understand it is over and probably forever and I am dying inside. My questions are as follows - Do I go for legal separation or do I let him as he says if that's what I want to get the agreement written up and he'll review it but he's not spending money on a lawyer? - If I don't get legal separation and he continues to accumulate debt and spend our savings/RRSP etc, I am worried I am not protecting my DD properly? - Do I agree to sell the house w/o legal separation as I cannot afford to stay there for longer than 6 months with just my income? - How do I do this so that if there is any itsy bit of possibility he wakes up and does want to fight for us and our family, I haven't acted in a way that squishes that? There have been some darks days but I think this one is the worst cause I've finally started to believe it is over and I think about Christmas and our anniversary coming up in October and my little girl and everything that could have been and wish I knew for the last few years what I know now. Please, any advice, I am so so sad and feel helpless to make decisions properly...
