Well depending on how reliable your information is on her being involved physically with OM would depend on what you could do next...
I agree that *if* she is involved currently most likely she can not honestly be working things out with you...*if* this is the case you need to just let her go and work on yourself for a while...tell you that you don't share...until she is atleast committed to "trying" there is nothing you can do for her...
Basically this is where you detach...and turn around...if she wakes up she will let you know and then you can decide how to proceed from there...
