So should I stop wanting desire from my wife? And if I don't want her desire, then what would I want from her?
Did you reread the interview?
No you do not have to stop wanting desire from your wife. I have not told you to not want your wife to desire you. I have only tried to share possible actions to open up the possibility of getting that desire.
From the interview:
Question: Would that necessarily mean sitting with the desire unfulfilled?
Answer:Well, the nature of desire is that it's always at least a little bit unfulfilled. Resting in the gap - without either rushing to satisfy the desire or foreclosing the possibility of that satisfaction - is a literal attempt to open to desire in its totality, to understand it, and through this insight to come to an understanding of oneself. Denial of the desire is just another way of trying to eradicate the gap, which is what desire wants: Ultimately, desire seeks fulfillment. The practice I'm talking about encourages one to move toward that which one desires, witnessing the whole process along the way, and not simply getting lost in dissatisfaction. This approach challenges one to go wholeheartedly into one's life and one's desire, and also to accept whatever comes of that pursuit.
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But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
