okay, I forwarded his e-mail to my friend (the therapist) and this was her suggestion. will work on what I'll actually say and post before I send.
guess I would want to validate his hurt - "sounds like you are really struggling with the consequences of your choices h." Then I would let him know how that felt for me..."I am sad to see you hurting." Then I would let him know what I could do..."I wish I could be there for you but it seems that this is something you need to take care of on your own - just as I am taking care of my own stuff."
The above sounds really stiff, but taking the emotion out for you is really important. This is a repeated pattern Morgan...ie. the 1:00a thing etc. You call his bluff and he cries. I do believe he is hurting, but for the first time in his life, he is going to have to feel it outright and alone.
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