Since you said you did not understand this article, please go back and reread it. At least try to ask questions about it so we can tell you our interpretations. For some help, I see YOUR DESIRE for desire from your wife as the desire that is being discussed in this interview. It is NOT your desire for desire that is a problem. IT is your clinging to the desire that appears to be causing an issue.
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus