I'm taking this from Heimlich to tie into the asking for a status report.
"What do you think of me now, huh, huh, huh?" translation= I'm desperate.
Attraction scale= -1,000
It shouts out, "I'm afraid to let you think your own thoughts that may be different than mine, & I desperately need you to reassure me"
A healthy R is one where the inner experience is that "being close & being separate are both equally safe & gratifying. Both are acceptable, all the time, and there is no conflict between them that requires resolution."
This is a lesson I need to learn and quick.
Originally Posted By: warm&sunny
It's only when I distance (lovingly), that my H has any interest at all in me.
He's just not attracted to a weak, needy, women who crowds him.
Since I've starting really detaching & learning my own d*mn lessons, there appears to be some movement towards me again. When he's done this before, I somehow forgot what the goal was & proceeded to undo the positive. Big penalty.
