Frustrated and More Saddened #3

[waw1978]

Exactly, I wasn't coming & going in that manner. I was coming and going to spend time with D4. But we weren't on a schedule so he claimed it was "as I pleased" now we have a firm understanding that I stay at the house on the days I have D4. The days are clearly laid out and so far its working. Although now with me having my own place I imagine I will be spending less and less time at the house as D4 gets accustomed to spending time at my place. For my H this outburst was clearly a control issue. Not worrying about my safety. That being said, I never stayed out overnight anywhere before we were separated or even after for that matter. I guess its just not in my nature. I like to go out have a good time but I always went home and still do.

As far as telling your friend that things had not improved, I wouldn't call it alien spew necessarily. She may just be stating the obvious. For her things may not have improved. I know thats tough to hear since you are doing so much work. It will take time for her to see that your changes are real and lasting. This same issue came up in my MC sesh on Saturday. I am taking things very slow and being cautious about our relationship. I told the MC that I wanted for H & I to work on being friends, learning to trust each other before anything else could happen. Baby steps. Don't let this discourage you.