I still haven't cracked open the DR book to get info on going dark, but if going dark is not calling or emailing, then I have already been doing that.

It's really not that different from when we were together, though. We never really talked often when he was at work and when he went out of town, we rarely talked, and I would hardly ever be the one to initiate contact. So, him moving out almost feels like an extended trip with no return ticket booked. I haven't had any sort of contact with him since Wednesday evening when he called to say he was coming to get the camping stuff. (I guess I 'contacted' him on Thursday with the note and TM, but he didn't 'contact' back.) It's like *he* is going dark on *me*!

On a happier note; showed houses last night. Cute cute couple. Recently divorced. Both looked on e-harmony and match and didn't find anyone they really connected with. They live next door to each other and that's how they met. (That's how my H and I met too, but I wasn't going to tell them that.) Anyhoo-they were talking about online dating, etc, I mentioned I was going thru a separation and just wanted to find some friends, and now she is talking about getting me out sailing with her and her guy friends. \:\) We'll see if anything actually comes to pass, but it was nice of her to offer.

Dom R-are you out there? what did you mean about going dark being serious?

Me-43
H-46
M 12 yrs 7/09
T 15
2 grown kids
bomb 7/05/07
H moved out 8/04/07
11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling
Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D
End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing