dlt1. I am here for you, I am not the best when it comes to advice, but I will try, I have been/still am in your shoes.
I feel the same way, about a reconciliation with the W, but the signs do help, for me they help me to keep the faith, and I believe that faith comes from God, and that God is love, so you never know.
Don't let the whole dividing things thing, get you down, try to take your emotions out of it, and look at it as a business transaction, that is really what a legal separation/D is, nothing more, The hard part is the emotional separation/D, that one is the killer. But since you are here, and I assume reading/have read Michelle's book, you are learning how to deal with the emotional side of it, and doing the right things for yourself.
It is strange though, how this whole DB thing works, you have one spouse, the WAS, who is not happy with the other spouse and wants them to change, then thinking that the other spouse never will, walks away and wants to end the R, Then the LBS, wakes up, sees what they need to do, and makes the changes, for themselves. and in the grand scheme of things the WAS, wakes up, sees the changes and wants the R, and becomes willing to make the changes themselves. Pretty complicated, long, draw out stuff, but worth it in the end. Take Care.
