vacation is over, I am leaving

[Heimlich]

I just don't know what I have done to drive him back to her, why does she have this hold over him. I know I am way better, and I am better for him.

Limbo,

You likely didn't do anything. You are the strong one. Your H is the weak one. Don't forget that. We all played a role in where our R is today, but all of us here are doing our best to make things right/better than before. All too often, we take on blame that's not ours.

Get out there and have some fun with your kids or by yourself. Don't wait on him. Start moving forward doing things to make you happy. If your H comes along, great. If not, his loss.

Also, be wary, but don't presume you know what your H is going through. I've been reading Grasshopper's thread from last year. It's excellent.

BD