DaveJ. You have all the tools that you need here (the easy part). You just have to put them into practice (the hard part).
Things to do: 1. Be patient 2. Actively listen to what you W is saying 3. Avoid anger 4. Learn quickly to back off, shut up and walk away when you want to speak out 5. GAL & take care of yourself 6. Be strong and confident 7. Do a 180 8. Gain all the knowledge you can
Things to avoid: 1. Do not be desarate or needy 2. Do not talk about yourself when you speak to W 3. Do not believe any of what your hear and only 50% of what you see 4. Do not give up, no matter how dark it is or how bad you feel 5. Do not backslide from your hard earned work
How to act with WAW: 1. Be loving in return 2. Accept some invitations to spend time together, but not all 3. Do not ask questions about your future together 4. Be vague when ask questions about your changes 5. Continue to be positive and upbeat "Act As If" 6. Do not say "I love you" 7. Resist getting into R talk 8. Beat your spouse to the punch when it is time to leave or separate from each other at the end of an activity.
You know what needs to be done, hopefully you know how to do. Now the hard part. Just doing it.
I am here for rooting for you.
“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED” “You have to have a life to share a life with someone” “When you stop resisting, you start learning”
