Frustrated and More Saddened #3

[stewart10]

Thanks Limbo. I am going to do my best over here. Hope things start to improve for you soon. Keep your eyes open and try to look for the small things that improve.

Heim:

The boundary issue isn't really a boundary issue at all -- it's you being concerned for her welfare and worried about where she is.

That is exactly right. It is not about anything other than peace of mind for me. I just want to know that she is safe. Helps me sleep better.

I know everytime she doesn't call or gives you another lame excuse as to why, you feel disrespected.

You are right. I do feel disrespected. In my eyes it is common courtesy to make a phone call like that. She chooses not to do it even though she knows how important it is to me.

Asking her to call is probably being perceived by her as an attempt at control. Just stop asking. You know she's not going to anyway. Just let it go and keep doing things for yourself.

I don't ask her each time. When we started having issues and she began to stay out at night, I just asked her that when she arrives wherever she is staying, that she please call me. Just to say I am at so and so's and I am safe. That's it. I have stopped asking. But she knows she is not holding up her part on this because each morning after it happens she tells me sorry but I fell asleep, or phone died or some other lame excuse. So I know she is making a conscious decision to basically piss me off. I don't ever call her on it, I just come here and complain about it.

I'm thinking of a little HDTV action myself when I move out. Can't really afford it, but . . .

Best Buy has a great no interest promotion going right now. Plasma TV's no interest for 3 years. All other TVs 999 and up no interest for 2 years. The Orioles will still look as bad on a nice 42 inch t.v., big screen TVs don't cure everything.... just messing with you. The O's have handed it to the Yanks last few series.