The thing is H is finding you not as the OW but as a new GF, this is great. Does the potential OM exists? I agree that you want to be the W and L. Take you time, dont rush it. Patience. You will see how he reacts to 'Jared' whenever you see him again but dont bring up the name.
See the W, Listen to the W, but dont Speak back to the W. Bridle your tongue...
