Need advice on WAW with OM

[svejk]

This is driving me crazy. I am confused and hopefully someone here can explain to me how this can possibly work.

My Wife is telling me she is confused about our relationship and that she needs time and space to fall back in love with me. She says she really wants to fall back in love with me and that she is afraid of losing me in the meantime.

All of this I can understand and I can live with even though I occasionally screw up and talk to her when I shouldn't. But I am willing to give her all the time and space she needs because I love her that much and she's worth it.

But what I don't understand, and maybe someone here can enlighten me, is how she can possibly fall back in love with me when she is seeing another man. I'm not making assumptions here, I know for a fact that she is having a PA with the OM.

I know I can't control what she does and I can only work on myself, and I'm not trying to figure out a way to stop her from seeing the OM.

I just feel like I'm wasting my time and driving myself crazy at the same time because I have absolutely no hope that someone can be having a PA with OM and fall back in love with their husband at the same time.

I see many threads on this site where people are waiting and waiting for long periods of time for their WAS to end relationships with OP, but I don't see many where things work out when OP are involved. Maybe I am wrong and hopefully someone here can set me straight.

I'd really like to just tell my wife that I love her and am willing to give her all the time and space she needs to figure things out. I'd also like to tell her that I know about the PA with OM and I don't understand how she could fall back in love with me while she is seeing him. If she is so afraid of losing me then why is she continuing with the OM?

But mostly I'd like to understand how someone can fall in love with their husband while they are having a PA with OM?

Thanks,
Svejk