As you said, your W is still in the house and talking to you. The boundary issue isn't really a boundary issue at all -- it's you being concerned for her welfare and worried about where she is. I know everytime she doesn't call or gives you another lame excuse as to why, you feel disrespected. Asking her to call is probably being perceived by her as an attempt at control. Just stop asking. You know she's not going to anyway. Just let it go and keep doing things for yourself.
I'm thinking of a little HDTV action myself when I move out. Can't really afford it, but . . .
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Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY