Frustrated and More Saddened #3

[stewart10]

WAW:

Thanks for the insight. The whole boundaries thing can lead to what happened in your situation, and that is why I am a bit wary. I remembered from your thread that is how things wound up-with you leaving permanently. That is definitely not what I want. But, correct me if I am wrong but you would not stay out until all hours of the night, not call your H if you were not coming home etc... Point is, I think H may have overreacted to your comings and goings, and I think that at least from my perspective I would be justified with the way she has been acting.

So I guess my point is although her behavior is irritating and you think you have had enough, tread lightly. Try to approach it diplomatically. Don't get heated up or she may finally take that next step and move out as she has mentioned in the past.

I know, definitely would be bad for me, so I am keeping this in mind.

Just because she is the WAW doesn't mean you have continously deal with behaviors that you find unacceptable.

Well put. I think this is what I struggle with the most. She clearly is doing the things that would really anger me in the past like not calling when she is staying out to let me know she is safe. I haven't been giving her a hard time about it like I would have in the past.

BUT:

It wasn't a complete loss all weekend. We had talked on Saturday about going on Sunday and doing something, going for a hike, picnic etc at a state park about an hour away. When it appeared to me that she was going to spend all day in bed (she said she didn't feel well), I decided to get up and do something. Kind of annoyed me, but I let it go. So anyway, I went to the mall and decided I would really like to purchase a plasma TV. So I came back with a nice big screen plasma TV and my father came up to assist with the assembly (mostly just because he wanted to check out the new TV). But at least I got a new TV out of the weekend. Yankees and Jets games are going to look good on there, whether my W is sitting next to me or not.

WAW, and others, what do you think about my W's comments to our friend from college about things getting better (or should I say not getting better)? I believe I posted about it yesterday, 11:58 am.