Pick yourself up. Get your plan. Start working it. Call your support system. Do some things.
"I got on the phone."
Why?
I want you to give some serious thought to that question. What are you getting out of having the destructive R talk with H over and over again?
From the outside, it looks like you are working yourself up to get back to a place of feeling devastated. What is your fear about what it says about YOU if you let go of being devastated?