Hi again! My W is continuing C, which gives me hope that she is working on making changes within herself. But, she sees it as a process she needs to address before her NEXT R. I have found some real insights into things from her life I never really new or understood recently. Each time I realize just how far she has to go. I want to be there with her, I feel for her. She had big falling out with MIL early in the week. Much due to MIL speaking with my mom. MIL did not know much if sitch. She really made W feel bad, and W said she felt very alone all week.
I told her how bad I felt for her and that it was not fair for MIL to tear into her like that. I said, she just doesn't understand how you feel. I don't completely understand it either, but I respect that it is the way you feel. No one can tell you you are wrong. It took me a few days to begin accepting that you do not want to be M anymore. It hurts, but I can not change your mind. I know once you make up your mind, you don;t waver no matter what. I really hope MIL will back off of you. I can ask my mom to ask MIL to do that, if you would like. They want that they believe is best for us. I'm sure she will begin to realize that you feel it is best for us to end our M. It's not an easy thing to accept, but once she tales a step back and looks at things from your view, as I did, hopefully she will see that you don't love me. I want to let you know, that if you are feeling alone, I am hear for you just to talk, or listen. I'm sure I'm not the person you are looking to turn to right now, given the situation, but you are not alone. I won't read anything into it. Please call me if you need anything or just need to vent.
She did say thank you. Not a heartfelt THANK YOU! I probably went overboard, but was on a roll. Should see her briefly Tues and then will have a very fun talk Wed. Two times for me to convey PMA, keep it light, and I gotta remember to give her a wink!
One funny thing, as we were getting up from the patio to come inside, I stood up first. Looked back at her as I was opening door. She stands up and her jeans drop a bit, exposing the top backside of a thong. I start laughing and say, "W, nice thong." W-"Yeah, I need to do laundry, this was all I had left to wear."
Me - "You can't be showing me those if I'm supposed to be moving on!"
W-(laughing)"You're not supposed to be looking."
Me- "yeah, not going to look at my hot wife, sure"
W-smiles
Me-"you're killing me, you know that don;t you?"(laughing)
It was a nice moment for us to have a laugh. And man is she ever smokin' hot! can't imagine not being intimate with her ever again. I know this is purely physical aspect, but good Lord!


Me 32
WAW 30
D Bomb 7/9
Separated 7/15
Reiterated bomb 8/12
PA 8/21
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